Do any of you have someone that you just can't stand ,but you have to talk to them ? I have a big family that I never talk to and that's fine with me ,but I have an ex husband who I hate more then anyone else on earth and I still have to talk to him sometimes .
Most people don't look forward to their kids growing up and moving out and on with their lives. I can't wait for my kids to all be 18 and done school and college . I have always told them I want them to get a job that makes them happy and live where ever they want to live.
I know some people want them to live close to them always and I would like that too! I don't however want them to ever live close to where he lives . I would rather them live far away from him ,that way I can visit them when I want they can visit me when they want and there is no reason for me to ever have any kind of contact with him ever again!
I know some people who have never had the pleasure of being divorced won't understand this. There are also some people who get along great with the ex ..now that they are an ex! Some people put up with it when they have to for family things and then there are people like me. I know there are way more people in the same group as me , then the other groups.....there is always a reason you are divorced! If they were great and you wanted to be around them and see their face ,you would most likely still be married!
Here's the part I don't get though, I have lots of reasons to hate him and then they increased by 1000 after we got divorced. He however hates me too and why: because I wanted a divorce , because after putting up with all his crap and being treated like dirt for way too many years,I had enough ! So now I guess he has two reasons first because I got rid of him and then because I'm an adult and I tell it like it is ! I do not agree with his choice in a girlfriend !
I could care less if he had one ,if it was an adult ! Instead she is a kid,she rode the bus with my daughter !
Since we have two teenage daughters,I think as their parents you should teach them right from wrong. How can you teach your daughter that, when you are doing wrong right in front of her and then freak out like a moron when told what you are doing is sick and wrong ! Hearing the truth really bothers some people and he is one of them!
Anyone we use to be friends with no longer hangs around with him, because we all had girls the same age. I wouldn't want him coming to my house where my teen daughter is either,knowing that his girlfriend is a kid herself. It would freak me out that he was looking my daughter up and down thinking ,she looks good or maybe I could get her next when this one gets to old .
He has all new friends ,they are all young and came along with his girlfriend. I just don't get why he doesn't see what he is doing is wrong,he has me telling him and none of his friends he had since he went to school want him around and even his own daughter tells him how she doesn't like it. Yet he says whatever ,I can do what I want. This is true he can ,but why doesn't any of those things sink into his head?
If it was me I would feel bad that I lost all my friends,and that all the other parents talk about me from my kids schools. Mostly I would feel bad if my daughter hated my guts because of it. So let me ask you this. If it was you and you lost all the friends you had for years and everywhere you went people asked you if your gf/bf was your daughter /son and your kids all hated you. Wouldn't you think maybe I should get a gf/bf close to my own age or would you just think oh well it's my life even though you know you are hurting your children .
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Jenn I'm so sorry you guys are having to deal with this crap. Kids are not dumb they understand even if you don't think they do. It'll come back to bite him in the ass one day. Just ask my dad, he wonders why I have a hard time being open with him. I can forgive, but I'll never EVER forget!
I'm going to write about all the stuff he pulled with the kids ,including that stuff he did a few weeks ago !
Your Ex husband is disturbing. SERIOUSLY.
in my high school, there was an unspoken rule...you don't date your friends ex...and that was understood! this sounds way so much worse. your kids probably are so angry yet embarassed of him. How truly sad. Isn't that illegal in your country?some people just never grow up!
Well I'm from Canada, I just moved to the states 2 years ago. I think 16 is the legal age back home,so he always told eveyone she was the baby sitter and then once she was 17 or so he started telling people it was his gf.
Whoa!
He seriously has issues. Your daughters are smart and know what's going on. As long as you are teaching them right, they'll be a-ok!
Oh boy, sounds like a mess. I can't even imagine. I would be really, really pissed.
Ewwww. He has issues.
Wow. I can't imagine. I have watched my best friend go through the emotions of a divorce and an ex that isn't good for her daughters at all-exposing them to porn,etc but somehow she found a way to release him and her anger--and she feels so free now.
I Hate my Ex. My son is only 7 and thinks his dad is soooo cool. Oh I can't wait for the day when my son is old enough to realize his dad is really a big loser. My ex tries to spoil him with toys and such. But I think of it this way....I have the upper hand because my son spend more time with me. I have more opportunites to show him love and to give him a good family life. He will know he is loved when he is with me. When he is grown he will look back and see that. But there are days when I say, "Oh i just can't wait for him to be 18 and tell his dad to go away.
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